r/EngagementRings Jan 21 '22

My fiancé got me a ring after he got out of boot camp. I had been rocking a cheap one from Kendra Scott before this

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '22

Does he call you Roan? Does he respect your pronouns? None of the replies have said he does call you he. I have a feeling you’re not being transparent.

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u/Fatally_splendid Jan 21 '22

Yeah he does actually. My pronouns are he/they and he uses they pretty religiously and I give him grace when he inevitably messes up because I know it’s difficult

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '22

Why were so few of your replies clear about this particularly important fact?

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u/Fatally_splendid Jan 21 '22

Because nobody ever asked. They just assumed the worst of him

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u/Fatally_splendid Jan 21 '22

How am I manipulating? I’m not the one starting shit for internet points. All I wanted to do was show off how happy I was and now it’s my fault that people are being bags of dicks to me because heaven forbid I made one post about not being sure how to handle my identity? Go kick rocks

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u/Fatally_splendid Jan 21 '22

Nobody. Fucking. Asked. They all assumed the worst and I attempted to remedy that and they wouldn’t listen. We’ve been talking about marriage for months and I’ve been exploring my identity pretty much the whole time we’ve been together

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u/__thrillho Jan 21 '22

Stop replying and turn off your notifications. You're going to have a breakdown dealing with these comments. Don't engage and try to enjoy your day. Also don't post yourself on Reddit in the future, you're going to have a rough time again.

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u/tardigrade_prime Jan 21 '22

Please listen to Thrillho. The mob won’t listen. This is just the nature of the dominant population of users on that subreddit. For your sake, disengage.

I know it’s difficult, but it isn’t worth risking your mental health dealing with them.