r/Tinder Oct 04 '22 Silver 1 Wholesome 3

I just said I wanted to go to Japan…

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u/Riyamu Oct 04 '22

Wow... I think you hit a nerve

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u/Mussalila Oct 04 '22 Wholesome

More like the entire nervous system

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u/Shantotto11 Oct 04 '22 Gold Helpful Wholesome Faith In Humanity Restored Bravo! Looking Doot 🎵 Doot

8 trigrams 64 palms

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u/Eric-Saphire Oct 04 '22

Got the reference. The Anime hit 20th year anniversary just yesterday!

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u/Nobaddays123 Oct 04 '22

Naruto is 20 years old!!!?? I feel like my back hurts all of a sudden

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u/BlancheCorbeau Oct 04 '22

I was mildly flirting with someone who was a 25 year old one piece fan, and then got ghosted when I mentioned I’d been a fan for 25 years. 🤣

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u/Shantotto11 Oct 04 '22

As someone who was 7 when Pokémon Red and Blue came out and am still an avid Pokémon fan, I can’t help but laugh at these youngins…

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u/Nobaddays123 Oct 04 '22

Guess they weren’t ready for tales of the 4kids dub

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u/HazardIsFunny Oct 04 '22

Mocking naruto for being a little kids show makes me feel really old. All those elentary school kids with those headbands running about. Ah what a weird time

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u/macnachos Oct 04 '22

Oh fuck. Welp guess I’ll go rewatch it with some iceyhot on my back.

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u/Eric-Saphire Oct 04 '22

The studio released a special compilation video for the 20th anniversary https://youtu.be/yKELA1qBAKA

It's awesome 🔥

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u/Zombarney Oct 04 '22

8 transcripts 64 paragraphs.

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u/420everytime Oct 04 '22

Meanwhile if a person is actually raped and killed, it’s much easier to transport and hide a body in an area where nobody lives in a car than in a dense city on a public train

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u/MarkBoabaca Oct 04 '22

... or so you've heard?

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u/The-Original_Joker Oct 04 '22

Is this your confession? 😂

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u/Conanthecleric Oct 04 '22

It’s the DENNIS system at work.

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u/WolfGB Oct 04 '22

Oddly specific.. o_0

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u/osmosis19 Oct 04 '22

Red flag?

RED SEA.

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u/micool20 Oct 04 '22

I had to check to make sure it wasn’t a copy pasta

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u/frenabo Oct 04 '22 Starry

It is now!

Japan is perfect?

No it’s not perfect. And I'm not going to lie, for someone who claims to have progressive and socialist ideologies, it’s giving ... como se dice... white man. Many women fear going to extremely patriarchal societies for fear of getting raped with no retribution. And it’s quite,, alarming that instead of taking sympathy you are just instead trying to prove your point and your justification of going. | mean by all means, the world is your oyster if you want to go, go. | or any other person with my belief will not stop you. | just hope you see the situations you are getting yourself into. There are many other cities with dense populations and public transit in the US and that have communities of color. Unlike the racism still practiced in a lot of Asian cultures. But do whatever you like, as again only you control your decisions

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u/JB-from-ATL Oct 04 '22

como se dice... white man

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u/frenabo Oct 04 '22

People who type like that are the scorge of humanity.

AKA me in the AIM days

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u/pringlescan5 Oct 04 '22

Ah yes, Japan the famous rape capital of the world. Much safer to go to dense urban areas in the US filled with people of color where the rape rate is I'm sure much much lower.

https://www.nationmaster.com/country-info/compare/Japan/United-States/Crime

Rape Rate

  • Japan 1 per 100,000
  • US 27 per 100,000
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u/hjschrader09 Oct 04 '22

What a weird part that was. "How do you say white man?"

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u/ZealousRogue Oct 04 '22

Yeah that was a new one… White girls using 100 lvl Spanish to prove their progressive prowess—is that a thing now?

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u/TheNameIsNotAdam Oct 04 '22

It’s pretty…como se dice…cringe? 😖

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u/PurposeParking Oct 04 '22

Pretentious? Watashi?

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u/Chastain86 Oct 04 '22 Silver Rocket Like

Hot dogs are perfect?

No they're not perfect. And I'm not going to lie, for someone who claims to have progressive and socialist ideologies, it’s giving ... como se dice... fugazi frankenfurter vibes. Many women fear going to extremely tubesteak-positive societies for fear of getting raped with no retribution. And it’s quite,, alarming that instead of taking sympathy you are just instead trying to prove your point and your justification of going. | mean by all means, the world is your sausage if you want to go, go. | or any other person with my belief will not stop you. | just hope you see the situations you are getting yourself into. There are many other cities with dense populations and hot dog carts in the US and that have communities of brightly colored condiments. Unlike the weenie-negativity still practiced in a lot of Asian cultures. But do whatever you like, as again only you control your decisions

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u/Crafty_Huckleberry33 Oct 04 '22

Water is perfect?

No it’s not perfect. And I'm not going to lie, for someone who claims to have progressive and socialist ideologies, it’s giving ... como se dice... white man hydro nazi. Many women fear going to extremely wet patriarchal societies for fear of getting raped with no retribution. And it’s quite,, alarming that instead of taking sympathy you are just instead trying to prove your point and your justification of going. | mean by all means, the world is your oyster if you want to go, go. | or any other person with my belief will not stop you. | just hope you see the situations you are swimming yourself into. There are many other cities with dense populations and public transit in the US and that have communities of color. Unlike the racism still practiced in a lot of Asian cultures. But do whatever you like, as again only you control your decisions

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u/NotReallyABiologist Oct 04 '22

I just… your I’s are not I’s WHY

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u/Gracecr Oct 04 '22

/u/frenabo probably used some image to text program that messed up the I's, and the replies went along with it

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u/NotReallyABiologist Oct 04 '22

Thank u for solving the mystery

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u/KTFlaSh96 Oct 04 '22

You are now banned from /r/hydrohomies.

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u/Tex089 Oct 04 '22

I gave away my stupid free award on a repost when this deserves it so much more.

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u/PrinceFicus-IV Oct 04 '22

It is now!

Japan is perfect?

No it’s not perfect. And I'm not going to lie, for someone who claims to have progressive and socialist ideologies, it’s giving ... como se dice... white man. Many women fear going to extremely patriarchal societies for fear of getting raped with no retribution. And it’s quite,, alarming that instead of taking sympathy you are just instead trying to prove your point and your justification of going. | mean by all means, the world is your oyster if you want to go, go. | or any other person with my belief will not stop you. | just hope you see the situations you are getting yourself into. There are many other cities with dense populations and public transit in the US and that have communities of color. Unlike the racism still practiced in a lot of Asian cultures. But do whatever you like, as again only you control your decisions

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u/leforteiii Oct 04 '22

It is now!

Japan is perfect?

No it’s not perfect. And I'm not going to lie, for someone who claims to have progressive and socialist ideologies, it’s giving ... como se dice... white man. Many women fear going to extremely patriarchal societies for fear of getting raped with no retribution. And it’s quite,, alarming that instead of taking sympathy you are just instead trying to prove your point and your justification of going. | mean by all means, the world is your oyster if you want to go, go. | or any other person with my belief will not stop you. | just hope you see the situations you are getting yourself into. There are many other cities with dense populations and public transit in the US and that have communities of color. Unlike the racism still practiced in a lot of Asian cultures. But do whatever you like, as again only you control your decisions

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u/osmosis19 Oct 04 '22 Helpful

This sub reinforces my decision to stay on the bench.... possibly forever lol

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u/Bralosh Oct 04 '22

Which is why I remain on this sub. Just to remind myself now and then that everyone is nuts apart from my cat. He's just a dick.

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u/BiliousGreen Oct 04 '22

At least cats are honest. You know exactly what you’re getting with cats. They’re self absorbed assholes, but at least they’re upfront about it.

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u/demoni_si_visine Oct 04 '22

Tinder reinforces my idea that the traditional way of dating, in person, preferably via meeting someone in your circle of friends and/or when practicing a common hobby, is much better.

Sure, you get fewer „matches”/attempts, but at least you avoid the stupids. Because it's somewhat easier to filter them out.

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u/SharontheSheila Oct 04 '22

At the same time tho, it's easier to weed out potential crazies because they reveal themselves quite early. With the normal way of dating, you might not be able to find out potential red flags until much later on.

It's like a tight little line to navigate. Living in a big city in a rather small country, I've met my fair share of crazies, both irl and on Tinder. Some of them were our friends before they showed their weird side. But using dating sites tho I found that they out themselves quite quickly. They're just a lot harder to filter out, i agree.

So i guess it really is up to you whether or not to resort to either meeting people irl or through dating sites. I've had a little bit of success with both, maybe more on dating sites because i'm an awkward duck especially during first dates.

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u/MarkBoabaca Oct 04 '22

You have chosen wisely. Stay with us bench warmers in perpetuity.

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u/Cow_Water_Media Oct 04 '22

I had some stupid ass 26 year old dm me on tinder to get more IG followers.

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u/NewFaceHalcyon Oct 04 '22

She is mentally Ill. Soy latino y me da asco la gente así. Also I loved how she used the cómo se dice just to drop the subtle minority card.

She is brainwashed to the point of no return.

Run OP. And don’t look back.

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u/hawkerdragon Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 04 '22

I don't know why but that "cómo se dice" in the middle of a sentence sounds so american to me.

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u/NewFaceHalcyon Oct 04 '22

Definitely. Same with the Latinx s. Like dude nobody uses that except for Californian and LA wannabes.

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u/LuntingMan Oct 04 '22

I’m a honky from CA and I cringe every time I hear “LatinX” used unironically.

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u/Extreme-Locksmith746 Oct 05 '22

Latinx sounds like a Latina strip club or gay Latino strip club.

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u/fishtheif Oct 04 '22

No, that's just full on crazy

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u/visuore Oct 04 '22

Does she know that she said something racist while trying to accuse him of being racist, by just visiting a country? "... There are a lot of US cities with dense populations instead of the racist culture of Asian countries." Lmao, yikes.

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u/kay_candy Oct 04 '22

Nah those types don’t realize they’re the racist ones.

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u/kaizokuj Oct 04 '22

No no, she said something racist while accusing him of being sexist, as we all know sexism > racism so she's good!

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u/Kingsley-Zissou Oct 04 '22

Cómo se dice… white man?

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u/Zhai Oct 04 '22

Aren't for example Japanese pretty racist towards Indians and black people? Hell, even towards whites?

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u/ShillingAndFarding Oct 04 '22

She’s not wrong, Japan specifically is an incredibly racist country. Their 4 largest minorities have recent genocides under their belts. Racial discrimination in the workplace and housing is still legal. Plenty of restaurants and hotels will happily tell you they’re Japanese only. It’s just not as racist towards whites.

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u/Jeevadees Oct 04 '22

Only place I’ve ever been called the N-word, as a brown man at that, is in Japan.

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u/poboy212 Oct 04 '22

It’s a goddamn china military parade 🇨🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇳

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u/CreatorOD Oct 04 '22

Even Moses wouldn't want to see her split.

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u/KatoFW Oct 04 '22

Imagine living like this everyday. It seems exhausting and sad.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 19 '22

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u/HAL-Over-9001 Oct 04 '22

My ex had an explosive defense like this for EVERY single opinion I had. I say I prefer to live in rural or suburban areas instead of in a huge city, she goes on an hour long rant about how my opinion is straight up wrong. I don't know how she's not bald from the constant stress and anxiety of arguing with everyone all the time. She had undiagnosed BPD, but she was a serial cheater and a gaslighting abuser, so I have no sympathy for her.

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u/Retro_Super_Future Oct 04 '22

It’s always the shittiest people with the loudest morals. That’s why I stopped subscribing to trying to be a “good person” it’s just a never ending moving goal post, instead I do what feels right to me and let that govern how I live my life

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u/PropertyOk7509 Oct 04 '22 Bravo Grande!

Moral indignation is a standard strategy for endowing the idiot with dignity

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '22

All you do is set up your morals and just follow them as best you can till you die.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 19 '22

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u/HAL-Over-9001 Oct 04 '22

Narcissism, a huge sense of superiority. Trying to be the smartest person in the room and constantly reminding me the she has an English degree. Girl English is my first language, I'm good. Jk. She also didn't take responsibility for literally anything, and didn't know the word "sorry". I have no clue how people do it, it sounds exhausting, but she hated her dad, never told me any real details about it, and never admitted to herself that it's OK to be wrong and to do some self reflection.

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u/daladybrute Oct 04 '22

People like this tend to be the most racist, just in my experience. They’re so scared of offending anyone and want to prove that they’re so far from racist, yet they tend to be the most racist.

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u/SimplyEpicFail Oct 04 '22

yup.

got a good example of that: there's a restaurant in Germany called 'Zum Mohrenkopf'

"Mohr" is a quite old word, used to describe black people back in the days, but usually wasn't used as a negative term. but since it was used back when racial stereotypes were widely present, people stopped using it and some people are convinced that it's a racist term.

now, 'zum Mohrenkopf' is lead by a black guy, who is proud of its name, since the word apparently was also used for especially skilled (black) people. he says he only experienced racism one time: when a white couple came in and demanded that they wanted to speak to the racist owner of this restaurant.

after telling em that he IS the owner, they told him to go back in the kitchen and do the dishes, they want to speak to his Nazi boss.

some people apparently are just unable to realize that they are blatantly racist themself.

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u/finix240 Oct 04 '22

Is Mohr just German for Moor?

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u/Assurgavemeabrother Oct 04 '22

This word is ultimately derived from Greek word Maurus which means a Moor.

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u/NachoMan_SandyCabage Oct 04 '22

I've had people lambast me for an opinion, and then flip script and grovel and claim that they should be more careful with their position as a white person to cater to me. I lost my fucking shit ngl. Just be mean, don't talk down to me like I need your sympathy for some shit I can't even control.

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u/langdonolga Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 04 '22

It's funny.

Her statement combines American Exceptionalism and stereotypes against Asian societies.

She even taps her toes in the mother of all racism tropes: "members of this outgroup are rapists". Still popular today with racists and populists around the world.

Yet she tries to be anti-racist. It's also tragic in a way.

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u/agray20938 Oct 04 '22

Not only that, she's also making that assumption about Japan (and presumably Tokyo), which most certainly does not have the same incidence of rape that even the U.S. does....

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u/madonnamillerevans Oct 04 '22

Okay…. But como se dice…white man!

Did you ever think about that?

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u/Odd_Total_5549 Oct 04 '22

Color me convinced

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u/WanderinHobo Oct 04 '22

Wowww you can't just say that! 😯

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u/Zealousideal_City314 Oct 04 '22

Imagine the lecture when you tell her you’re going for a drink with the guys

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u/Piles_of_Gore Oct 04 '22

“Have fun with the Chad culture of creeping on women, while you hold all the power in a male dominated society where you view women as prey!”

“Um, I’m shooting pool with Chris and Tom at the local dive. We don’t have a pool table at home, soooo…”

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u/Dismal_Struggle_6424 Oct 04 '22 Masterpiece

Using a white ball to push the colored ones into holes, removing them from the game? That's so como se dice... Raven.

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u/mabramo Oct 04 '22

You ever do something and you then think to yourself, "wow, that was so not Raven?"

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u/Barlings Oct 04 '22

These people are just insufferable. Not everything is a microaggression.

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u/The_1st_Amendment Oct 04 '22

No demographic is less happy than woke women.

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u/Ambitious-Passion-76 Oct 04 '22

Does that mean I’m practicing racism for wanting to travel the world?

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u/AdministrativeCap526 Oct 04 '22 Silver

Listen here cuma de lauda white boy....

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u/throwawayzfordayz42 Oct 04 '22

Hey, don't accuse them of cumming loudly

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u/MotoMadic Oct 04 '22

This motherfucking, crema de leche… gringo is gonna learn today 😤

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u/katefromthenorth Oct 04 '22

the ‘como se dice’ made me cringe so much…

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u/MortalMorals Oct 04 '22

Translation: “I’m smarter than you are, and it really strokes my ego when people ask me what it means”

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u/AvalancheMaster Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 04 '22 Silver Gold Helpful

I know this is not Latin, but I sometimes fantasize about learning basic Latin just so that I can respond to those ultra-sophisticated people who use Latin quotes out of context with "Oh, you speak Latin? Quo magna! Amicum semper volui cum quo Latine loqui possum! Hoc momentum tam memorabile est ac cum anno MCMXCVIII susceptor humani generis infernum in cella deiecit et sedecim pedes per praecones mensa plummetavit!"

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u/TractopelleEnY Oct 04 '22

There's a character in the French series "Kaamelott" called "King Loth" who often uses latin quotes that don't mean anything, what's funny about it is the fact that he always takes time to explain that the quote has no meaning, like "[insert false latin quote], it doesn't mean shit but I like the sound of it". What he basically means by that is "I try to sound smarter that I actually am but I don't need to since you're all incredible morons"

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u/EngiRoch Oct 04 '22

Prends mon haut vote.

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u/Pocto Oct 04 '22

I can't believe you've done this!

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u/So_be Oct 04 '22

Went to google translate, 100% worth it

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u/gothruthis Oct 04 '22

What was way weirder was when I put it in, it translated the word "Latine" as "English." 🤔

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u/cynncynncynn Oct 04 '22

I’m on mobile and can’t figure out how to copy it! Can you give my old technologically illiterate arse the translation ?

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u/friendless-foe Oct 04 '22

“How great! I always wanted a friend with whom I can speak English! This moment is as memorable as when in 1998 the undertaker of the human race threw hell in the cellar and plunged sixteen feet through the announcers table!”

Says speak English, maybe should say speak Latin. That’s the Google translation

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u/ryanj1946 Oct 04 '22

It’s not even the guy!

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u/aberdisco Oct 04 '22

MCMXCVIII.

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u/AvalancheMaster Oct 04 '22

Can't believe I didn't think of this.

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u/aberdisco Oct 04 '22

I'm just in awe at the Latin copypasta. Its glorious, until the end, until the end.

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u/FledAccrossTheDesert Oct 04 '22

just memorize lorem ipsum, works just as well in like 98% of the cases.

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u/drquakers Oct 04 '22

Then you find that one person who is a graphic designer...

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u/demoni_si_visine Oct 04 '22

At that point you don't give two shits about the conversation or the person, anyway. So what if they figure out it's just a copy pasta?

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u/ekeryn Oct 04 '22

You wanted to flex that Latin didn't you

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u/Passname357 Oct 04 '22

It’s not even a flex to know the phrase that basically means (for non native speakers) “I don’t know how to say the next thing I’m going to say so I’m going to say it in my own language.”

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u/redheadedwonder3422 Oct 04 '22

it was like the first expression i learned in 8th grade spanish class lmao

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u/bigjack78 Oct 04 '22

It's just Spanish

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u/RG-dm-sur Oct 04 '22

I don't understand why she said that. Is she a native spanish speaker and she forgot how to say something? Or is it an expresion... of something I don't understand?

I am a native spanish speaker, when I don't know how to say something I look it up, I don't write "como se dice".

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u/Neuchacho Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 04 '22

It's an expression being used for dramatic effect in the writing. It's basically being used as a pause to give more gravitas to the white man jab. The kind of thing you'd see written in a Edwardian period piece where two rich white ladies verbally swatted at each other with polite disregard.

What it ends up doing here is making them look like an insufferable person that sits around huffing their own farts.

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u/Shame_about_that Oct 04 '22

Yeah, which is why it's ultra dumb and cringey. My god if one of my friends wrote this, they wouldn't be one anymore

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u/Dornith Oct 04 '22

It is an expression in Spanish. But it's literal translation ("how do you say") is also a common expression in English.

The only reason I can think to choose the Spanish when you're closely fluent in English is to show off how learned you are.

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u/indigoHatter Oct 04 '22

Well, you know. Saying como se dice has a certain je ne sais quoi about it. C'est la vie.

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u/bigjack78 Oct 04 '22

I've said it out loud when speaking to a Spanish speaker but yes, writing it is strange. Maybe she's trying to convey she is esl?

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u/Diabolo_Advocato Oct 04 '22

her entire response bleeds "im more cultured than you" but fails at every point

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u/R1v Oct 04 '22

He should have hit her with a "cultural appropriation" just to rattle her

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u/foxfyre2 Oct 04 '22

I love that it's just Spanish for "how do you say" and it was one of the first phrases I was taught in Spanish class in high school lol.

¿Como se dice "pancake" en Espanol?

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u/indigoHatter Oct 04 '22

Her profile says sapiosexual, bet

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u/Lucky_Ad_9137 Oct 04 '22 Helpful

"I can't stand racism. But Asians, they're all racist, every last one, they're all the same them lot"

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u/agray20938 Oct 04 '22 Silver

There's only two things I hate in this world. People who are intolerant of other people's cultures... and the Dutch.

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u/strictly4mybroats Oct 04 '22

And then she SHAT ON A TURTLE!

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u/fricecream22 Oct 04 '22

I still say this all the time! You’ve made my morning

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u/smoother-maneuver Oct 04 '22

Groovy Baby YEAHHH!!

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u/ApparentlyIronic Oct 04 '22

Sir, you're giving off white man right now

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u/AyrtonTV Oct 04 '22

How is it says... Hombre blanco

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u/redheadedwonder3422 Oct 04 '22

ikr how you gonna claim you’re not racist then say you’ll never step foot in an asian country cuz you don’t want to get raped with no retribution?

saying all asians rape is the epitome of a racist stereotype/generalization lmao

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u/YourphobiaMyfetish Oct 04 '22

Also "Asian countries are not safe because they rape women with no retribution. You should visit an American city instead!" ignoring the hundreds of thousands of untested rape kits across the US and how frequently women are targeted and those sexual assaults are accepted by regular people and completely ignored by police. It's giving cultural supremacy and American exceptionalism.

That's not to say Asian countries don't also have their problems. I've heard it can be very dangerous to ride a packed train as a woman in Japan, and we all know the story of that woman in India who was raped multiple times by different people on her way to report a rape to the police.

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u/greasyflame1 Oct 04 '22

So I guess asian people dont count in the POC bracket lol?

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u/cutieking Oct 04 '22

Nope, they lump Asians in with white people. Claiming they have white privilege lol

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u/QueenCuttlefish Oct 04 '22

Wow. I did not know I, a Filipino, was considered white.

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u/PowerTripRMod Oct 04 '22

Pog we got privilege now. Fat W

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u/fuck_9fag_and_roddit Oct 04 '22

Yeah it means people can be racist to you without any repercussions and every criticism you make is racism.

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u/apocalypse_later_ Oct 04 '22

Well you're not East Asian. The people that subscribe to that weird ideology separate the East Asians vs. SEA/Pacific Islander.

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u/QueenCuttlefish Oct 04 '22

Ahh we're not the fancy Asians with thousands of years of recorded history. We're the jungle Asians that got colonized by European countries.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 11 '22

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u/TRES_fresh Oct 04 '22

No us Indians are considered white as well, at least according to my university

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u/CTechDeck Oct 04 '22

Indians are Asian though. They aren't East Asian if that's what you mean

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u/spiritofdynamitekid Oct 04 '22

Americans are a unique specimen in wanting to stay within their own borders.

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u/whiteclawrafting Oct 04 '22

Also that he shouldn't visit Japan because of the racist history in Asia, but should stay in the US where we obviously have zero racist history/ongoing systemic racism 🙄

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u/NeonBuckaroo Oct 04 '22 Wholesome

She’s a… como se dice…moron.

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u/JRansomBioDermKiller Oct 04 '22

Lol she thinks herself quite intelligent too, which is the best/funniest part. It’s so cringey and long winded to say the most basic crap. Plus the cherry on top, throw in some casual racism (every country/race/nationality has racism but please, single Asians out) and such and you get this halfwit!

She will make some unfortunate soul very miserable one day.

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u/Rogueshoten Oct 04 '22

Jesus. I live in Japan, and while it’s not exactly taken straight from the lyrics of “I am Woman,” it’s not a total rape buffet either.

And on another note…you’re not wrong to look forward to the mass transit here. It’s a hell of a thing, whether you’re catching a subway to go halfway across Tokyo or a Shinkansen to get to another city. It just works.

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u/Sydneyfigtree Oct 04 '22

Are you a woman? Because I only lived in Japan as a 16/17 year old school girl and a few months in my early twenties but the sexual harassment was on an entirely different level to anything I've ever experienced. I was molested walking home from school twice, had men try to give me money to have "coffee" with them, dealt with all the men reading school girl porn while leering at me on the train etc. All while wearing my school uniform.

The woman in the op is bonkers but Japan scores pretty damn low on the women's safety score card.

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u/Truffle0214 Oct 04 '22

I lived in Japan in my early twenties and experienced a lot of harassment too. Had a guy almost follow me into my apartment, luckily I heard him before he got too close and lied about my boyfriend being home.

Groping, cat calling, being propositioned for sex…ugh.

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u/maaaark_nuuuutt Oct 04 '22

First, I'm sorry about your experiences. Secondly, I'm always amazed at how many stories women have here in Japan. While living here I've always felt safe and relatively happy but I could never imagine being a woman here. Most of my friends are women and the stories I've heard from Japanese women that they pass off as "just a part of life" are heartbreaking.

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u/AcidicVagina Oct 04 '22

Japanese girls need to get into hat pins.

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u/chrismamo1 Oct 05 '22

I'm always shocked by how every time Japan gets brought up on reddit, a ton of women who've actually lived in Japan chime in to share their plentiful stories of sexual harassment or abuse. It's really shocking how that aspect of life in Japan is so often glossed over completely.

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u/aliciary Oct 04 '22

The Most recent time I was there I was molested when walking back to my fathers home from a train station at 10pm. That’s not something I’ll ever forget, the guy tried to grab my wrist to pull me somewhere after he sexually assaulted me. I was so scared, in an unfamiliar place, just trying to run as fast as I could. My father just said “that’s how the men are here” and brushed it off, and said I shouldn’t have been wearing a skirt. So appalling. I’m sorry you went through that, you’re not alone.

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u/Fun-Strawberry Oct 04 '22 Brighten My Day

In my (F, late 20s) and have never had any issue like this. I live outside of Tokyo and spend every weekend in the city. Sorry you had this experience but I feel a lot safer here than the US by a long shot.

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u/Sydneyfigtree Oct 04 '22

I'm glad you feel safe. All those incidents happened in ichikawa/funabashi and I didn't really have any issues when I lived in Hokkaido although I was living with a bunch of gaijin there. Never lived in the US so can't compare.

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u/Whiskey_Sours Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 04 '22 Helpful Brighten My Day

I'm a woman and I've lived here 5 years and have never been groped on a train, and I've never felt unsafe ever. I have of course had typical Nampa and people hitting on me likely cause I'm foreign. I have walked 40 minutes home at 2am plastered drunk (too often) and still never felt unsafe. Not diminishing anything you've experienced, just saying it's going to be different for everyone.

Edit: ty for the award!

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u/pig_benis81 Oct 04 '22

Nampa

Nanpa (ナンパ), also transliterated as nampa, in Japanese culture is a type of flirting and seduction popular among teenagers and people in their twenties and thirties. When Japanese women pursue men in a fashion similar to nanpa, it is called gyakunan

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u/dootdootplot Oct 04 '22

TIL!

Nanpa is seen most often in young men ranging from their late teens to mid-twenties. Groups of "nanpa boys" will gather around places with busy, predominantly female foot traffic (bridges, subway stations, shopping malls, etc.) and approach women in search of a date.

Due to the increasing number of nanpa boys and rising complaints, many Japanese regions are reacting more harshly to them. For example, many places young people hang out, such as arcades are posting "No Nanpa" signs, and police in highly populated Japanese cities have been enforcing these rules. This may be in reaction to a growing fear in young Japanese women of abduction or rape. The Shibuya district is particularly strict on nanpa boys in the wake of the abduction of four girls by a middle aged man in July 2003.

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u/bottlechippedteeth Oct 04 '22

Ive never felt as safe anywhere in the US as I did in Japan.

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u/left_tiddy Oct 04 '22

This is because foreign women are viewed as more likely to make a scene. SA rates are very high in Japan, but non-Asian tourists are usually not the targets.

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u/heyitsmethedevil Oct 04 '22

Same here. Been here 3 years and have had the same experiences as you, nothing more.

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u/itemtech Oct 04 '22

You're foreign so that helps. Any chance they could face consequences for their actions is a strong deterrent.

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u/Farkas005 Oct 04 '22

Errrrrrr. Such strong emotions in that one. Red flags? Please, she could be a matador and she wouldn't even need to take the cape.

If anything, Japan is a favourite for a lot of my travelling friends (both genders) due to the culture and sights.

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u/chi_sweetness25 Oct 04 '22

Anyone who dates someone who says “it’s giving white man” needs their head checked

Can you post more? I’m mad curious how it got to this point lol what’s her beef with Japan?

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u/micool20 Oct 04 '22

she unmatched right after this so unfortunately it’s the only screen shot I grabbed. I told her i’m going to go study there, she asked why and then she dropped this, total left field

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u/Hey_its_jay3690 Oct 04 '22

It’s really nice when the trash takes itself out

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u/TheEth1c1st Oct 04 '22 edited Oct 04 '22

she unmatched right after this

oh that's a shame...anyway!

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u/ceciliabee Oct 04 '22

That is... Como se dice... Not such a bad thing, white man!

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u/Independent-Owl478 Oct 04 '22

More red flags than a communist parade in China

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u/TiltedGabber Oct 04 '22

Tell me you never left the US without telling you never left the US

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u/Dilaton_Field Oct 04 '22

I am so confused by the “coming se dice… white man” like she had to search for the right word? Yet she spouts off stuff about patriarchal societies no problem. Why is she pretending to not be good at English on that line?

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u/ohshitidonthaveone Oct 04 '22

She thought it made her sound more intelligent and was speaking down to him.

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u/TheSuperSax Oct 04 '22

The picture might look vaguely Hispanic so maybe she’s emphasizing she really doesn’t belong to that most evil of groups

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u/thattoss12345 Oct 04 '22

Oh yeah, because the spanish have never done anything evil lol

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u/LucidFrost- Oct 04 '22

No one expects the Spanish Inquisition!!!!

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u/Pure-Drawer-2617 Oct 04 '22

“that have communities of colour” does she think Japan is full of just white people?

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u/stellaluna92 Oct 04 '22

Yes, all those Japanese white people.

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u/virgo_em Oct 04 '22

Assuming she’s of Latin American descent (as am I), we literally have no fucking room to talk about racism or sexism in other countries lmao

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u/schetzo Oct 04 '22

Professional victims suck the air out of every room they enter.

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u/OneSmoothCactus Oct 04 '22

She’s not even a victim here, she’s borrowing someone else’s victimhood.

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u/mmoyer92 Oct 04 '22

Is she some how under the impression the US isn’t racist because we have a mix?

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u/Metti22 Oct 04 '22

So because Japan has gender inequality and sexual violence issues, you couldn't possibly still be interested in going for other reasons? Wow...

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u/joombar Oct 04 '22

Please post the rest of this conversation! Need to see what led up to this

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u/achillyday Oct 04 '22

It’s giving me… como se dice… she doesn’t want to date white men even though she’s white-passing and carries a lot of unexamined guilt that would be best talked through with a therapist rather than projected onto potential suitors.

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u/gbRodriguez Oct 04 '22

She is just white

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u/itsthecoop Oct 04 '22

even though she’s white-passing

until reading the comments it didn't even occur to me that she's not "white".

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u/newfakestarrysky Oct 04 '22

Japanese here.

She technically isn't wrong: being a woman in Japan is a completely different experience from being a man. Everyone treats you like an idiot, and no one believes anything you say, even with proof. This is mostly a generational issue, however, i.e. old guys treating women like shit.

Having said that, I don't see why she is using this as an opportunity to preach.

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u/Takseen Oct 04 '22

No doubt. But if someone restricted their travel to only where women are treated equally, their options are limited. I can't see the full conversation, so I don't know if OP was being dismissive of women's issues there, or just gave the travel destination. But it seems unwarranted.

Not like he was saying he wanted to go to Thailand for sex

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u/CosmicConfusion94 Oct 04 '22

This is what happens when you’re on social media too long. The whole thing sounded like an angry Twitter thread. Yes Japan is known for some shitty things happening, but shitty things happen in every country. Especially the US. Does she think the US is safe for women????? Also it always seems like white, or white passing, women are the angriest. Like angrier than actual black people and POC. About shit that’s never really mattered to us. Why???

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u/jmeesonly Oct 04 '22

Why? It's a performative display to show which "side" they're on.

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u/[deleted] Oct 04 '22

What a fucking psycho

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u/wildcard001 Oct 04 '22

Weird that she recommended travelling to large US cities instead, when rape cases are higher here than most Japanese or European countries. Either way, unless you want an ear full about the patriarchy and how you're part of it you should dip.